“When I’m having trouble with someone, it’s a sure sign that person is exactly the gift I am needing in my life. Sometimes it takes me years to write the thank you note, though.” – unknown
The relationships we have (and those we lose) just might be the biggest source of angst that this human experience has to offer and one of the most powerful things we can do for ourselves is to see them and the people involved from a higher perspective. The higher perspective I’m referring to is based on the awareness that we are actually a bunch of spirits/souls having a human experience. We are down here on earth experiencing certain things and encountering certain people who have been placed at particular points along our journey to help us learn lessons and evolve. That old adage that says, “everything happens for a reason” nicely summarizes the concept of the human experience.
With that higher awareness of the human experience, we have the opportunity to take on that aforementioned higher perspective and view all the people we have challenging relationships with as essentially “good” because they’re sent to us with a divine purpose and that is to ROCK OUR WORLD in some way – in a way that gives us an experience that our soul signed up for before it put on its “human suit”. Whether it’s an acquaintance, co-worker, friend, family member, or romantic partner, they are playing some sort of supportive role in our motion picture that furthers along the plot. All the world’s a stage, right?
As I look back on my life, I can clearly see that those people in both my professional and personal life who brought about anger, pain, tears, and more phone calls to my mother than I would like to admit, were just doing their jobs – they stopped me in my tracks – they widened my eyes – they showed me stuff I needed to see - they were messengers delivering some kind of awakening or as I like to call it, a “spiritual kick in the ass”.
Did it hurt? Hell, yeah. Did it suck? Big time. Did it rock my world just when it needed rocking in that certain way? Absolutely.
That’s why I love that quote. I could send each of them a rather lengthy thank you note.
The opportunity you and I have is to see (and remember!) those people who challenged us the most and the gift(s) we received from having spent time with them and revel in that magic. If we do that, we just might have a shot at seeing the magic that exists with those souls who are challenging us right now.
What am I learning? How am I growing? In what way has this person helped me evolve? What are the gifts???
We just might be able to write our thank you notes (pretend or real) sooner rather than later.
Author and speaker, Dr. Wayne Dyer, once pointed out that inside the word TORMENTOR, lies the word, MENTOR. Can you see that? Not literally of course – it’s clearly the last two syllables of the word – but rather, can you see the people in your life who have challenged you the most as TEACHERS?
Can you see the “good” in everyone?