Try Giving Up All Hope

Monday, March 31st, 2014

Hope gets a great deal of good publicity. At face value, to hope indicates an intrepid spirit who is relentless in their pursuit of happiness. We are taught that it’s the one thing we will always have and to never give it up. It even floats.

It may come with a much shinier facade, but hope is actually just another form of resistance.

If you’re hoping for something new or better then what you are also doing is arguing with some aspect of your reality. Between you and full acceptance of the present moment lies hope.

To have hope is to say “no” to your life in some way.

To have hope makes it sound like you’ve gone and chosen a positive mindset, but it is actually desire drenched in expectation. “This should not be happening so something else better come along to make it far more acceptable.”

Hope is an attachment. “I need this to happen. If it doesn’t happen, that means my life is officially headed toward a downward spiral.”

Hope is like a prayer with a underlying conditional offer. “I hope this happens. (Because I’ll only be happy if it does.”

We humans love hoping for something better, in fact, we appear to be addicted to hope. Count how many times you refer to hope in a day. Then count how many times someone else does. The trick will be to not lose track.

We are constantly wanting our present to be different than it is and it’s doing nothing but adding to our suffering. The essence of stress is arguing with what is.

Hoping is a euphemism for worrying. It sounds better and it gets much better press. Hope is the socially accepted way to fret.

If you are into living with more ease, consider giving up all hope. End all hope. Give up hope for Lent. Let go of hope and choose to be completely at one with yourself, other people, and your circumstances. Love what is and see where that takes you.

Give up all hope and replace it with belief. Believe that the universe knows exactly what it’s doing and that it doesn’t make mistakes. Trust that no matter what happens, you are being lovingly guided along a path that has your very best interests in mind.

Toss hope aside and believe that there is always perfection unfolding.

Try being hopeless. Let the yearning, grasping, and reaching fall away.

Breathe deeply. Live in the mystery.

Dreaming is wonderful. Send out your big, beautiful intentions to the universe and then allow life to unfold. Rather than hope for this one, very particular outcome, stay completely open to when and how your thoughts will take shape.

Giving up hope is not giving up. Giving up hope is giving up the need to control. Giving up hope is an act of surrender that comes from an unwavering trust that all is coming – and a commitment to keep your mind and heart open to all the infinite possibilities of what “all” contains.

And then just think how much fun it will be to tell people that you are completely hopeless while wearing a big ol’ grin on your face.

5 Truths About Happiness

Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

1. There is a difference between fleeting happiness and long-term happiness. Fleeting happiness is short-lived and almost entirely created by your external circumstances. If you are on a beach in Mexico sipping a margarita on a warm, sunny day, you are probably going to be happy. Other the other hand, being a happy person (experiencing long-term happiness) is almost entirely determined by the lenses through which you view your external circumstances. In his book, The Happiness Advantage, positive psychology expert, Shawn Achor, explains that if he knew everything about your life (and I mean everything), he would only be able to predict ten percent of your long-term happiness. Ninety per cent of your long-term happiness is determined by how your brain processes your external circumstances – your perceptions and thoughts. Choose them wisely.

2. The point of life is happiness. Despite what past generations have believed and taught us, we are not here to suffer. We are not here to do the “right” thing even if it makes us miserable. We are not here to please others. We are not here to do anything, actually. We are not here to accomplish great things, to achieve success, or to save the world. You are here to be things. You are here to be a bright light in this world by being joyful, kind, generous, helpful, compassionate, and yes, happy. If what you do is work hard to be happy, then in your own, unique way, you will accomplish great things, achieve success, and save the world.

3. Happiness often takes practice. Be on the lookout for those times you are tempted to sabotage your happiness because it’s a foreign feeling or you’re entering unfamiliar territory. If you have that “angst thing” nailed down, it may require fierce commitment to consciousness in order to abstain from re-entering your comfort zone and resist returning to your default setting. Practice the art of choosing to be happy. If you have to practice happiness several times a day, so be it. Keep on, keeping’ on. Some folks are pretty much pros at being unhappy so if that’s the case for you, just keep working away at your new craft. Stay the course.

4. Happiness requires trust and gratitude. Another natural reaction to sustained happiness is fear – a fear of this goodness ending or being snatched away. This fear of scarcity is often demonstrated in new mothers as they hover over the crib of their newborn full of terror that this source of happiness is going to stop breathing. Have you ever been so happy that you end up being completely paranoid that it will leave your grasp? These feelings of scarcity can lead to sabotage or just plain old neurosis which can eradicate positive feelings just as much as the goodness ending or being snatched away. Because we have been let down, broken hearted, and left in the dust before, we convince ourselves that with this happiness we will meet that same fate once again. We wait for the proverbial “other shoe to drop” which compromises our positive feelings which can nicely create a self-fulfilling prophecy. Ever been so frightened of happiness ending that you ended up co-creating that reality? Release the fear of scarcity and enter a mindset of trust. Trust that all will be well. Have faith that the universe doesn’t make mistakes. The unplanned changes in life are what lead you down paths you simply didn’t know you were supposed to take. And be grateful. When those fears of scarcity arise, choose to be grateful instead. Stress cannot exist where there is gratitude.

5. You have nothing to learn in order to be happy. In fact, at the beginning of your life you were a master of happiness because you hadn’t yet learned to judge, have expectations, and attach your self-worth to possessions, relationships, and achievements. The only reason happiness has become a challenge is because of your beliefs and thought patterns. The key to happiness is to un-learn what has hindered your ability to be that master of happiness you once were. Happiness isn’t a case of learning at all. The question is…what do you need to let go of in order to be happy?

The Required Tension In Your Life (Lean Into The Struggle, Baby…Lean In)

Wednesday, February 26th, 2014

The world is the great gymnasium where we come to make ourselves strong.” - Swami Vivekananda, Indian Philosopher and Spiritual Leader

With life comes struggle. To know that truth, to be aware of it, and to accept it is where grace lies.

To celebrate struggle is another thing – that takes gratitude.

Knowing that struggle is the required tension in your life is where gratitude lies. The tension pushes you beyond your comfort zone and pulls you aside to show you something you have yet to let go of.

Every living thing on this planet experiences struggle and every living thing on this planet gains its power and strength from struggle.

Every living thing on this planet needs struggle to evolve.

You know what you know and you can do what you do thanks to struggle.

A hawk’s struggle for food is how the hawk can spot and follow a mouse scurrying hundreds of feet below on the ground. You don’t get “hawk eye” from hittin’ a drive thru.

A mouse’s struggle to stay alive is the very thing that develops its speed and agility. Running for your life can transform you into quite an athlete.

Just like the struggle between the hawk and mouse, your struggles are pieces of tension that you need to push and pull you into deciding, declaring, and experiencing you who you are.

Longing for something helps you develop patience.
Being pressured to do something helps you develop authenticity.
Being bullied helps you establish boundaries.
Facing uncertainty helps you strengthen faith.
Experiencing change helps you develop adaptability and flexibility.
Managing imperfection helps you foster compassion.
Your imperfection helps you develop vulnerability.
A loss helps you develop resiliency.
Falling short helps you develop perseverance.

When struggle comes along, see it as good news because you never have nor will you ever have to sit there racking your brain trying to come up with a way to expand your consciousness – to open your heart and mind a little wider than they were before. “Man, I gotta come up with a way to evolve!” Has said no one ever.

When the tension sets in, just imagine the light you will shine by bowing your head and whispering “thank you.”

Lean into the struggle. Stay there. Push through. Pull yourself up higher. And get stronger.

Resistance Is Futile…and at the core of anything you are stressed out about.

Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014

When the resistance is gone, so are the demons.” – Pema Chödrön, nun/author/Buddhist teacher

The last time I published a blog was last June. As a writer, that blog-post-per-capita figure is somewhat alarming.

The fact that I didn’t post a blog in the summer is not a big deal to me because I spent most of my waking hours in July and August finishing my first book. While plowing through revisions and formatting to make an early September publishing deadline, mama wasn’t exactly looking for other opportunities to express herself. By mid-August it was starting to feel like I was competing on a writer’s version of “The Amazing Race.” And you know what, I did it! I won! I had my brand new book in hand to sell at my first speaking engagement of the fall season! What a triumphant feat! What a glorious feeling!

What a way to drain my battery right before heading into a busy fall of speaking engagements.

It was more of a bottoming-out than a drain. I kind of hit the proverbial wall.

In early September I started to feel…not myself. I woke up most mornings terribly anxious. I couldn’t come up with an original idea for the stage or the page. I wasn’t excited about going back on tour. It was a deadly combination of not being able to and not wanting to continue doing the hard work that comes along with running your own business.

Week after week, I continued to feel “stuck” due to my malaise and anxiety. I desperately wanted to be the “go-getter” I normally am, but no dice. I tried to push my way out of the fog, but no clarity would come. I sat on the phone with my mother in disbelief. I fought against the reality that I went from publishing a book to finding it hard to read a book.

By mid-October I was so sick of feeling “stuck” that I started to think about quitting. I was traveling to a speaking engagement in Kingston all the while re-framing it into the first show of my farewell tour. As irony would have it, the show in Kingston was a great one and I had a blast on stage. Oh, Murphy. You and your crazy law.

When I got back from Kingston, my wee bit of success and enjoyment inspired me to change my mind about what I was going through. I chose to embrace the fact that I was “stuck”. I allowed myself to feel creatively uninspired and entrepreneurially static. I committed to doing my very best on stage and nothing else. I began to work with the fact that I was pausing (for whatever reason) and put my ambition on pause. I stopped resisting.

I decided to rest instead.

Yep, if I wasn’t getting ready for or doing a show, then I was at yoga class, out on the curling ice, hanging with my friends, or chilling out at home. I went with the flow of my path rather than against the grain. It felt so good.

This past fall, I was once again shown the power of surrender. The peace that is created when you put down your weapons and end the battle. The battle is often seen to be you against the world, but it is and always will be you against yourself.

Surrender takes place when you stop asking, “How is this happening?”, or “Why me?”, and you finally ask, “What will I make of it?”

Surrender can often be the shift in consciousness that brings you the ease you are dreaming of. Next time you are entrenched in the battle, wave the white flag and trust the path. Decide to live in the mystery during those times when you wish your life came with background music so you could understand what the hell is going on.

After a few weeks of viewing my “stillness” as my friend rather than my enemy, my spirits began to lift. In late November, I spoke at a women’s event that ended up to be one of the best performances of my life. More importantly, Stella got her groove back. My spark had returned. I was inspired to move forward with my work again.

I continued resting through the holiday season into the new year. A couple weeks ago, I returned to my work feeling myself again with all kinds of projects underway. I am more committed to being the messenger than ever before.

The next time the universe changes the tempo of my life or presents any other change in my circumstances, my intention is to play along. I so clearly see that the essence of suffering is arguing with what is.

For whatever reason, I was stopped in my tracks this fall and I was shown the suffering I cause for myself when I want my circumstances to be different than they are. The very essence of stress is arguing with what is – when you push something away – when you say “no” to what life is presenting to you.

When you let go of what you think your life is supposed to be and allow the path to unfold, the peace that is created within sets the stage for the next miracle.

 

 

 

How Your View Of The World Can Change When (You Remember) You’re On A Mission

Wednesday, June 12th, 2013

During one of her shows on Oprah Radio, spiritual author and teacher, Elizabeth Lesser, said that when astronauts complete their missions in space, these scientists and military figures return to earth with a transformed view of the world and their lives. Apparently after seeing the perfection and beauty of our planet from that awesome perspective, many of these rather analytical and rational people come back much more heart-centred and carry on the rest of their lives as humanitarians.

Elizabeth then went on to say that this was a perfect metaphor for the “awakening process”. The change in astronauts is not unlike the shift that takes place in one who consciously chooses to see the world from a higher perspective and with that view, they too see the perfection and beauty in everything and everyone.

As this spiritual path does not involve months at space camp doing zero-gravity training and developing a taste for meals contained in tubes, the higher perspective of things is that we are all having this human experience with the sole purpose to express unconditional love and help others do that very same thing in the many opportunities that arise throughout the course of our lives.

We the spiritual warriors see that we are on a mission of our own. This mission that we are all on is to express love in some way or another.  A “spiritual awakening” is when someone realizes/remembers that they are here to carry out the mission.

Much like those astronauts on their mission, we have a chance to see past the drama happening on earth at ground level, and see everyone and everything we encounter as a chance to be a source of loving…to be kind…to be friendly…to be helpful…to be compassionate…to be generous…to be a bright light in the darkness.

All you can see is beauty and perfection when you see life as one opportunity after another to carry out the mission. Even when there is suffering, it’s only because you or someone else is forgetting the mission or learning something that will help them carry out the mission in the future.

Here are a few ways your view of the world can change when (you remember) you are on a mission to be a source of unconditional love to everyone (including yourself)…

1. You Don’t Take Anything Personally. Because no matter what anyone says or does, it’s never about you. It may seem like it, but the truth is, it is never about you. If someone says or does something unloving, it’s just an indication that they have simply forgotten who they really are and the mission. *But you do remember who you really are and the mission so you choose to be compassionate as they are dealing with a serious case of memory loss.

2. You Don’t Interfere In Anyone’s Life. Because no matter how “bad” things may seem for someone, they are simply living out a scenario that has been well-timed, well-planned, and well-orchestrated for them to experience something that will help them in some way to remember and live out the mission. When you interfere in someone’s evolution, that also means that you have forgotten the mission. *Saving people is not part of the mission.

3. You Don’t Fail. Because you’re always falling forward in your evolutionary journey toward living out the mission in the way(s) for which you are destined. It’s designed to be a journey. Your head would probably blow off if you remembered everything all at once. *Nothing is random on the mission.

4. You Don’t Need Anything. Because anything that will help you on your mission will be provided precisely at the time that best serves you on the mission. *Now you know that you don’t need it because you don’t have it. Best savings plan ever.

5. You Don’t Feel Alone. Because we’re all on the same mission and all connected by the same loving energy that sent us here in the first place. When you or anyone  talks or acts in an unloving way, it’s because they see themselves as an island and they are staring out at a bunch of islands. The islands are an illusion. We see the islands when we’re caught in the “dream” of this physical world that has taught us that we aren’t in this together. *Note how many beliefs you’ve been fed over the years that sabotage the mission.

Much like the astronauts discover while they have that unique perspective on the world, we the spiritual seekers see that we are not here to do anything. We are not here to accomplish great things, achieve success, and save the world. Inevitably we will do things in this life, but in our action, we remember that we are here to be a source of unconditional love.

And while remembering the mission, we end up accomplishing great things, achieving success, and saving the world.

 

 

The Plight Of The Perfectionist: Saving Face

Thursday, May 16th, 2013

As I say, I’m a recovering perfectionist turned good-enoughist.

As much as I’ve worked hard to get to place where I believe my imperfections don’t equal inadequacies, there are still those times when I so desperately want to appear perfect and I choose to save face.

Saving face is saying one thing while feeling something entirely different. Rather that allowing someone to see you, the wall goes up. The wall is a response or a behaviour that guards your truth. The wall makes damn sure that who you really are is not put on for display and presents something that’s not at all real. It’s showtime.

Saving face runs rampant in our society. We want to be cool. Being cool is well, not cool. While trying desperately to appear cool, we’re missing out on being ourselves and having pure, inspiring, passionate connections with other human beings. Saving face is preventing us  from being who we really are which sucks since that’s why we’re here having this human experience in the first place.

Oh, and it’s quite a show that we put on. We feel crushed, or jealous, or sorry for ourselves, or just plain angry. Inside we’re feeling something born out fear. With some version of fear swirling inside of us, we then say to our co-worker, our friend, our mother, our lover, “Me? I’m good. I’m totally fine…really.” All the while are so not fine. We want to say something else, but we don’t because our pain is not a good look.  We don’t want to openly admit to our feelings because our ego has led us to believe that imperfect reaction is not an option as imperfections equal inadequacy.

No. It just means we’re human, damn it.

But we suffer in silence. And in the silence resentment builds. Resentment is the death of connection. The plight of the perfectionist.

Saving face is a sign that self-acceptance is still on the table waiting to be dealt with. Acceptance of self and of anybody or anything else is born out of letting go of expectations. May I and all the other recovering perfectionists let go of the expectations we have of ourselves to be a certain way because that’s what we should be thinking, saying, and feeling. May we accept the facts of our humanity. We humans are unique, we are emotional, and we are imperfect.

Not unlike all the other aspects of “awakened” living, vulnerability is a practice. A daily practice. The opportunities to let our guard down and allow people to really, truly see us lies in accepting the fourth fact of humanity and that is we humans have an innate desire to protect our sense of self.  When the wall is going up, we merely notice it and then make a shift with this question: What would love have me say in this moment?

As one of my favourite spiritual authors, Neale Donald Walsch, once said, “The mind is the last part of yourself to listen to. It thinks of everything you can lose. The heart thinks of everything you can give and the soul thinks of everything you are.

May we stop saving face because we’re so afraid to lose our sense of self. That small-minded self that feeds off the illusion that we’re not lovable just the way we are.

Next time you think it’s showtime, choose love. Choose to be fear-less. When you catch yourself in the “act” and choose open-hearted and truthful living, you will be opening up to a beautiful sense of connection that you may very well have been waiting your whole life for.

 

Take The Easy Way

Wednesday, May 8th, 2013

You and the universe are quite an interesting team, you know? You think it up and dream it up in your mind, and the great force that knows your soul’s intentions either moves heaven and earth to make it happen or does nothing at all because you’re not sticking to the plan. When things are hard it’s because you’ve gone rogue. And when you go rogue, teamwork goes right out the window. When your ego-mind really gets going and starts calling the big shots and making grandiose decisions, your wingman (the universe) goes rogue on you. Your wingman tackles you down, causes interference, and well, just plain ruins everything.

Or so it seems.

It’s tough love, but it’s all in the name of getting you to stick to the plan.

You’ve seen this tough love before. That job you thought was going to be the best job ever actually turned out to be a living hell. That business you started was so hard to get off the ground and then tanked before you knew it. That home you just had to have was a money pit…and rather haunted. That person you thought was the one, was so not the one.

Those were the times you went rogue and your wingman wasn’t going to have any of it. Nothing about the job, the business, the house, or the relationship was easy because your wingman was either completely apathetic or went to great lengths to make it a total gong show so you and your ego would finally give up.

We’ve grown up being told nothing comes easy and anything worth having is hard. Hmmmm. While I believe effort (even a bit of blood, sweat, and tears) in this life is a worthy endeavour and necessary for results, I also believe in checking how it feels and listening to that little voice inside telling you whether your wingman is on board with all this.

I believe in living your soul’s truth and singing your song. When you do, things are easy. You have experienced this before – your effort seems effortless – things are unfolding beautifully. There’s no drama. It’s like butter on toast. It’s not the battle that it once was before. Everything seems well-timed, well-planned, and well-orchestrated. Thanks wingman.

Take the easy way. Your mind will always present stuff, but then see how it sits with your soul. If it’s easy, it’s meant to be. If it’s not, you’ll feel that intolerable tug of your wingman’s apathy or sabotage.

As Danielle LaPorte states in her creed below, let it be easy. When it’s easy, that’s a neon sign indicating that you and the universe are working in harmony. You are thinking, but then ultimately tuning into the wisdom of your soul. Look at you sticking to the plan.

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The Balance Between Gratitude & Managing Expectations

Friday, May 3rd, 2013

After I sent out a tweet this morning, someone on Facebook commented on the message by saying, “Susan, you sound like you have such an amazing life.”

Yes, I certainly do. I love what I do for a living, I’ve got my health, I have a wonderful circle of friends, a great family, I’ve got money in my pocket, I like the colour of my hair, I’ve got a friend who loves me, I’ve got a house, I’ve got a car…

Tune into your abundance. You will see that you too lead an amazing life. Your version, not mine.

Yay gratitude. Stress cannot exist where there is gratitude. Go ahead and try to be aware of how good you’ve got it and freak out at the same time. Damn near impossible.

With all that gratitude going on, it’s also powerful for one’s spirit to manage your expectations about what life is and what it owes you. TRUTH: No one goes through this life without facing its challenges. If impermanence is the rule of this physical (3-D) world, then emotional and physical pain is the rule of the human experience.

Oh yes, life will hurt. You have and will pay dearly. You have and will feel alone. You have and will think that you can’t bear one more day of it.

It’s a good kind of hurt, though. Before you take that the wrong way, I’ll expand on that thought and say that the hurt has a mission. The pain is not here to squash you. It’s here to shake you awake. It’s here to widen your eyes. It’s here to throw a mirror in front of your face. It’s here to school you and that’ll learn ya.

As Indian philosopher and spiritual leader, Swami Vivekananda, once said, “The world is the great gymnasium where we come to make ourselves strong.”

There is strength in knowing and seeing oneself clearly. There is strength in making new rules.

And with the awareness that each hurt is an opportunity to get stronger, evolve, and live a more awakened life, we experience pain, but we don’t experience suffering because we’ve come back around to what else?

Gratitude.

 

My Truth And What I Know For Sure (So Far…)

Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

Back when I used to subscribe to Oprah’s magazine, “O”, (hey, did you see who’s on the cover of it this month?!!!), I used to love reading the last article written by the queen herself. It was a short essay about something that she knows for sure. A glimpse into her truth. A snippet of the real Oprah.

You have your truth. You have beliefs that you would stand by if push were to really come to shove. You have aspects of yourself that have been there since day one and God bless you, there you are thirty, forty, fifty, sixty years later doing the same damn thing.

To realize it. To accept it. To own it. To express it freely and fearlessly is why you are here.

Screw the “shoulds”. Let go of what you think the world expects of you. And laugh at all the lies on Facebook. Yours included, darling.

If you do one thing in this life, choose to be yourself. Accept yourself for exactly who you are. Talk to yourself like you would to a best friend. Hell, even a lover.

So. Inspired by a conversation with my assistant when self-actualization was knocking hard on my door on a very dark day…here’s what I know for sure.

So far…

- I am a spiritual being having a human experience (not the other way around)

- every encounter is sacred

- other than what’s in the real law books, everything else in life truly is optional

- we suffer when we believe a thought that isn’t true for ourselves

- our true nature is joy

- things come together and they fall apart…it is the flux of life

- you can’t save anyone in this life, but if you save yourself, you will in turn, save the world

- to do something that brings you joy and leads you to shine a bright light in this world is success…but the opposite is not failure

- delivering a service and being of service are two very different things

- it’s very important to challenge everything you think, say, and want to buy

- emotional and physical pain is inevitable in life, however, suffering is quite optional

- stress cannot exist where there is gratitude

- abundance is not something we acquire in this life, it’s something we tune into

- it’s impossible to suffer if your attention is placed on the present moment

- my life is not about me at all…it’s about helping others in all the different ways that exist

- vulnerability (not saving face) can and will save the world

And here’s My Truth…

- my highs are high and my lows are low

- I LOVE a good party

- I can’t stand small talk (I’d rather dive in to the big, big stuff with a stranger than talk about their last vacation)

- I hold an extraordinary fantasy world in my mind

- I wear my heart on my sleeve

- I have no idea what complacency feels like

- I’m the most comfortable in this world when I’m busy

- I’m a pleaser from way back

- being a performer, turning a deaf ear to my ego-mind is my biggest life lesson

- writing, being on stage, and making people laugh is why I’m here…it is what my soul chose as the way to be a physical expression of love…it’s my TRUTH.

I probably didn’t capture everything here today, but it’s a start and starting to face the truth is one more step in getting closer to being who you really are.

What can you say for sure? What is your truth? And are you freely and fearlessly expressing it each day in all that you do?

Even on Facebook?

Big love,

susan

 

Ah, Love. Do you want it? Do you need it?

Thursday, February 14th, 2013

Ah, love. We want it. We need it.

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Here’s the thing. It’s everywhere. I know we believe that love is severely lacking in this world, but I strongly disagree. Quite the opposite, my love.

Love is seen as a premium product because we are deeply attached to what we expect it to look like, sound like, and feel like.

Love should look lovely. Love should sound loving. Love should make me feel loved.

If love doesn’t come to us looking, sounding, and feeling like the ways we expect it to, then it is absent. I say it exists all the time. Love is ever-present.

Here’s why you don’t need to want it. Here’s why you don’t need to need it….

Love isn’t an emotion and love isn’t a behaviour. Love is an energy. You can’t destroy energy – it only changes form.

We are always expressing this energy in some way or another depending on how we feel and choose to behave.

The thing is, our feelings and behaviours often suggest otherwise.

But love and how you feel and how you behave are all one.

You are constantly expressing love. Everyone is constantly expressing love.

We are all physical expressions of love.

Right now you might be thinking that this is hard to believe. You might be having a hard time buying into this when you have spent your life learning that love has opposites such as fear, anger, and sadness. You have learned that when those feelings or behaviours show up, love has left the building.

It hasn’t budged. It’s there. Just look for it.

When you fear loss, it’s because you love(d) someone or something deeply.

When you fear failure, it’s because you love something so much and want to realize your dreams.

When you are angry at someone, it’s because you love them so damn much and that’s why you care so damn much…enough to be angry.

When you feel sadness, it’s because you have loved something or someone so much that this loss has stopped you in your tracks and made grocery shopping a near impossible task.

And so on. When you feel “non-loving” emotions and demonstrate “non-loving” behaviours, remember that it’s all love just being expressed in ways that our minds have decided to be something entirely different.

Now apply this consciousness to your friend, your lover, your mother, your father, your brother, your sister, and your peeps at work…yes, even your boss. They are all expressing love even though their emotions and their behaviours may suggest otherwise.

Ah love. We want it. We need it. But it’s everywhere. Spend today (and the rest of your days) seeing it in its vast and varied expressions.

big love,

susan