How Goals Can Mess With Your Sense Gratitude

Thanks to Oprah and our constant consumption of inspirational quotes on Facebook, we get it – we get that gratitude is a thing. In fact, we’re so jazzed about it now we have gratitude journals, we make our kids tell us the one thing they are grateful for at dinner or bedtime, and complaining about anything is now labelled as a having a “first world problem”.

Yes, we have come a long way, baby. I mean, geez…back in the ’60s people sat around smoking all freaked out they wouldn’t win a space race. There’s no denying we have gained a great deal of perspective over time.

So given how good we’ve become at being thankful for our blessings and how much of a social faux pas it is to bitch about anything taking place in the first world, it may appear that I’m really late to the party to be suggesting anything new about how to practice gratitude, but well, here I am.

Because to be human is to have goals, and desires, and dreams. To be human is to look out at that space that lies between where you are and where you want to be. And if you’re not careful about how you view that space, you can end up thinking that you don’t have enough.

If you want to make more money, it can be easy to think, “I don’t make enough money.”

If you want more clients, it can be easy to think, “I don’t have enough clients.”

If you want more gigs, it can be easy to think, “I don’t get enough gigs.”

 As you constantly stare out at the space as you make your way along your journey, it can be easy to confuse the natural human desire to do and have more with lack. It can be easy to convince yourself that because there are still things you want to do and have that you don’t have everything you need.

Go back to what your parents most likely said to you when you were a kid having a fit because they weren’t willing to buy you a toy you claimed to need. They said, “What you want and what you need are two different things.”

Lack is a belief – it’s a perception – it’s a mindset. Abundance isn’t something you collect, it’s something you notice.

While you may want more money, clients, or gigs, the truth is, you have enough money, clients, and gigs. While you want more, you have everything you need. You have enough because you exist. If you didn’t have enough of something, my darling, you wouldn’t be alive.

Cue the gratitude.

As you make your way into that open space and travel toward the things you want, challenge the belief that you don’t have enough by seeing that you have everything you need to make the journey.

Because something in your life doesn’t exist, doesn’t mean that in your life there is something missing.


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